A new blog reader recently e-mailed me. He asked:
How do you determine when to live daringly and is it always easy to say yes to anything? I think I understand that it is not, but I am curious how you determine when it is your fear keeping you back or intuition that is speaking out.
Such an excellent question and insight!
My reply back was:
I don’t always say yes to everything. One must still have their boundaries. But part of living daringly is assessing if those boundaries are still working for you.
To me, intuition and fear sound like different things. Through my personal journey of living daringly and daring greatly (per Brené Brown), I’ve learned the difference. But the only way you learn is by facing fear and pushing your boundaries. Then you find out which ones were really supposed to be there and which were a facade. I’ve found many of them to be facades…
Technically, I haven’t absolutely learned the difference. I still make mistakes, and I still doubt sometimes. But I have a better idea than I once did. And the latter portion of the statement is true: most of the boundaries I’ve confronted have been facades that served no purpose.
So I’ll keep testing my boundaries. I won’t say yes to everything! I’ll keep the boundaries that have served me well.
For the others, well, I’ll take the life full of pleasures. I won’t let fear become debilitating and keep me from living a healthy, lovely life.
And I wish the same for you!