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Unpacking Thoughts


Boxes right after I moved into the new place. It’s a bit better now. Pics soon!

It’s been an intense week. Lots of unpacking. Lots of cleaning. Lots of decorating. Lots of reflection. A little bit of kittening.

I got moved into my new  place around 11:30 p.m. last Sunday (06/13). The movers came late, because their truck and their back-up truck broke down earlier in the day. After they arrived, they got me moved. The guys were very nice, despite having a hard day. They got me into my place. 

The days after that have been unpacking and exploring, with an emphasis on the prior. Man, am I sore! Moving boxes around, hanging curtains and pictures, putting together furniture… I’ve been exhausted.

But I’ve also had a bit of a chance to explore the new ‘hood. I found a sandwich shop I like a couple of blocks away. I walked to send a package. I walked to pick up a pizza one night. I’ve walked down to the waterfront a few times. I biked to yoga one morning. A friend and I walked to a nearby brewery, ran into a friend of his, and had a most fantastic conversation. I’m definitely enjoying my new neighborhood.

Part way through the week a friend put out a call for a forever home for a kitten. I’ve been thinking about adding to the family since Willow passed in March. I still can’t think about getting another dog. I need a break from that type of relationship. But I have been thinking about getting another cat, and specifically a kitten. I thought I would choose a cute little black kitten, but this tufted-eared tortoise shell cat came my way so I committed. Bubo joined our family yesterday, named for her tufted ears that remind me of an owl.

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Bubo! She’s waving hello!

Rusty isn’t convinced yet. If Bubo comes within a 3 foot radius, Rusty hisses at her. But no blows have been thrown, and though Rusty is wary she doesn’t seem overly concerned.

Bringing her home was hard. It’s hard to open your heart to a creature you know you will lose someday. Willow’s passing still hurts. But I don’t want to shut animals, or people for that matter, out of my heart just because I might someday get hurt. 

On that note, Happy Father’s Day! I’m definitely missing Dad. It’s been 5 years since he passed. Some days I don’t think about him much. Some days that’s not so true. I was thinking about him a lot yesterday as I walked along the bay as a storm was rolling in. Dad loved a good storm. He’d tell us to go inside, while he’d stand in the front yard before the rain came. Of course, we’d peek and watch too.

A lot of reflection has been going on in the midst of the move. While my  move just required a hop across the bay, the move feels bigger to me. I feel like this is the true entrance into the next phase of my life, even though I’ve recently hit some big milestones (e.g. my new job, finishing my Ph.D.). The winds of change are blowing.

So there’s my hodgepodge post of happenings and thoughts through the week. For those celebrating Father’s Day, enjoy it!! Honor yourself, dads, granddads, etc… There is such a need for positive, male role models in our society. Keep fighting the good fight with trying to raise kids to be the best they can.

If you aren’t celebrating Father’s Day, I hope you are celebrating life!!

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Summer Solstice 2015

I guess you know you are really a blogger when you haven’t posted for a week, and it feels like much longer.

Things have been busy in my world. Work and school (i.e. Ph.D.) have been dominating my time. I’m teaching summer school, but I’m also taking a couple of classes that go towards my teacher certification. On top of that, I’m in the process of writing manuscripts for my Ph.D. dissertation. One of them just went into review. The other will be submitted to the journal soon.

And the wheel keeps spinning. The spiral of life keeps turning.

So today is the summer solstice: the longest day of the year. Every day since December 21 has grown just a little bit longer, reaching the maximum today. Every day after today, until December 21, the days will get shorter. It’s a nice time to remember accomplishments from the year. I have so many things to be grateful for!

  • My new job.
  • Enjoying my new job.
  • Keeping it together when I have so much going on.
  • Being better at staying connected with friends through the busy-ness.
  • Making progress on my doctorate
  • Keeping my blog going.
  • Continuing to create.
  • Continuing to grow.
  • Continuing to challenge myself.
  • Feeling more and more like myself.
  • Embracing happiness.

Today is also Father’s Day, so I’m also thinking of Dad. Not too long ago, I think he might have been lurking around, checking in on me. I don’t specifically have that feel today, though he’s on my mind.

Happy Father’s Day, Dad.

Today I’m also thinking about the cycles of life. The ups, the downs, the in betweens. I’m investing time for friends, investing time for myself, and investing time in honoring this longest day that celebrates life.

Happy Midsummer!


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Father’s Day 2014

Father’s Day has become a weird thing for me since Dad died. I remember the first Father’s Day after he died (2012) being really hard. I walked into Target to buy something, and I got smacked in the face with all of the advertising reminding people to buy that special gift for that special guy.

Except I didn’t have anyone to buy a special gift for anymore. Even if I just bought a card, I had no one to send it to.

It hasn’t felt as dire since then. I sort of forgot about it at all until I saw a bunch of Facebook posts about it yesterday. Of course I’m sitting here reflecting while I write this, but I don’t really feel sad. Some people who have lost parents say that they think of them every day. I don’t, but I also don’t really think of him as being gone anymore. He pops into my dreams from time-to-time: “Hey, kiddo. It’s going to be alright.” I see things that remind me of him, and then one of his daddisms will chime in my ear and make me chuckle.


Partners in crime in Salem, MA (Maybe 1988?)

Ok, I lied. I’m feeling sad now… I miss him, and I do wish that he was still physically in my life. Since he’s not, at least I have a place I can remember and honor him.

I’m realizing, too, that I don’t mention my mom in my blog posts. She’s alive and raising hell in South Florida, in that good way. Smile I try to respect the privacy of those I write about, so I don’t really include her in my posts for that reason. She and I don’t talk often, but I love her dearly. She is just as important to me both in past and present as my dad was/is.

I made her one of my living daringly compact mirrors for Mother’s Day to remind her how much she means to me and so many others. She’s a Minnesota Vikings fan… Smile

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Mom’s living daringly compact. Purples and yellows galore. 🙂

So on this Father’s Day, I’m glad to be able to honor both of my parents. They’ve both been integral in shaping who I am today.

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